Slut Walk (Photo credit: wdroops)
Author’s Note: All stereotypes of liberals, feminists, etc. are not mine and do not resemble my political beliefs in any way. Apologies in advance.
For those of you who don’t use WordPress, the software keeps track of how people find your blog, how many are reading it, and other useful statistics that allow us bloggers to find out what people like, so they can write more of the same.
So I check how people found my blog, and one of the google searches that lead to my blog was “slutty liberal.” It linked to my posts on slutty halloween costumes. (Links here, here and here, for those of you who are interested.) My first reaction was horror- I’m not a slut! Just because I blog about my life, and that means I share my experiences with sexual assault, and write about rape culture, I’m not a slut!
And then, I stopped myself. I’m becoming defensive about my love life, and I have started questioning the wisdom of blogging.
As much as I say I won’t judge you for your sex life, I still twinge at the label of slut when it’s applied to me. I’ll defend you to anyone who calls you a slut, but when the insult comes at me, I’m flustered beyond recognition. I have to remind myself that to others, sex life that I disapprove of=woman who shouldn’t be taken seriously. I have to remind myself that the word “slut” is a silencing technique, not a censure of their beliefs about my behavior.
I have to ignore that people associate young liberals with sluttiness, forgetting that your morals are not my morals. I have to ignore that this is the steroetype that many critics refuse to see past. So I continually have to prove that despite what you think of my sexuality, based on your assumptions, that I am still worth listening to. That’s why I’m angry about being googled as a “slutty liberal.” Just because I vote liberal doesn’t mean that I have a raging sex life. And even if I did meet your nebulous definition of slut, it is none of your business and it has no impact on the validity of my opinions.
But I know that this won’t convince you. So ahead and google “liberal slut.” Or my new personal favorite, “confessions f******* my landlord sex stories.” You’ll find political comments and women proudly claiming the title. So to let those searching for lurid stories of threesomes and ecstasy-fueled hookups: you’re looking in the wrong place. Also, these pre-conceived notions of slutty liberals and feminists, having abortions willy-nilly, turning innocent women into lesbians* and witchcraft, or whatever else goes on in your darkest nightmares, these notions are absolutely ridiculous!
So if it takes you calling me “slutty” to land here and you learn something, then I guess I’ve done my job. Read on and educate yourself, my friend.