For those of you who don’t know, I’m a huge fan of Rosie’s blog, Make Me a Sammich. She is hilarious, and always has new insights on popular culture. For those of you who don’t read it, you should.
Recently, I read Rosie’s amazing piece , on the impact and responsibility of men to help fight sexism. She gave great suggestions, with concrete steps to take. I’ve shortened them to adapt them to fit the format of this blog, but they’re worth reading in their own right. The original suggestions are for video games and internet forums, but they are adaptable to the real world.
- Mockery. Use public shame to police the idiots who can’t behave. They’re social inadequates, immature losers. Let’s tell them so, loud and clear, in front of their friends.
- Shut them up. The right to speak in a public forum should be limited to those who don’t abuse it. Anyone who persistently abuses others gets automatically muted. New users don’t even get the right to talk. They have to earn it, and they keep it only so long as they behave themselves.
- Take away their means. Make it abundantly clear that it is unacceptable, then deny him or her the opportunity to do it further.
- Anonymity is a privilege, not a right. Anonymity is a double-edged sword. The default setting in all online forums that are not intended for people at risk should require real names. A limited number of people need it in certain circumstances: children, crime victims, whistleblowers, people discussing their medical conditions, political dissidents in repressive regimes. But those people normally don’t misuse their anonymity to abuse others; they’re protecting themselves from abuse.
- Impose punishments that are genuinely painful. This isn’t all that unusual; if you smoke in a non-smoking hotel room, you are typically subject to a whopping extra charge for being a jerk.
Any other suggestions to get people to be more polite and more inclusive? Share your ideas in the comments!