From the Readers-Solving Problems

Reader Maurice Barry of Duck?  Starfish?…23 commented under an older piece about advice for the men in our lives.  In his comment, he reminded me not to stereotype all men, and that he  appreciated the reminder to mind his manners.

He has actually written a related piece, in an effort to comment about male and female friendships, familial loyalty, and men’s tendency to problem solve.

The post begins with

“One of the things that women find most annoying about men is our desire to fix things that, maybe, do not need to be fixed.”
and includes
“Because we [men] often obtain our ‘power’ from our ability to effect change we figure that is the best response, namely to actually do something; to fix whatever is wrong. What we fail to realize is that what is sought is not a solution. Frequently the solution is known and other times one is not required. What is needed instead is support and understanding.”
This is simple and beautiful.  I love that Maurice understands this, and I’m glad that he posted it where other men can learn from his wisdom.

Here is the link to the rest of the post.  Check it out.  It involves Ireland, the War, and some awesome relatives.

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One comment on “From the Readers-Solving Problems

  1. Thank you for mentioning the post!
    It may be off-theme (a bit) for your blog but there are two other posts that you may be interested in:
    This one questions why we constantly beat ourselves up because we’re not always happy:
    http://mauriceabarry.wordpress.com/2012/06/25/in-pursuit-of-what/
    This one is the foundation of my personal viewpoint this time of the year:
    http://mauriceabarry.wordpress.com/2012/12/02/lasting-gifts/

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